You're good pals with women other men can't stand. You wear polyester. You're a little more flamboyant than some people. You could be the first man to kiss Nestor. You're not afraid to tell a joke. You're a good dancer. You can hold your own at a bar fight. You're a riot to be around. You're gay.
In the film The 40-Year-Old Virgin, Steve Carell's character tells his friends this about their friend Cal, played by Paul Rudd. It's a quote that resonates with anyone who knows what it means to be a gay man.
This article originally appeared on The Stir, a culture/politics site.