It's not always easy to understand why you have a crush on someone. Especially if the person is in a different gender. And when it comes to gay men, the question, "Why do they like me?" is even more confusing. But it is possible to figure out why you have a gay crush, and what you need to do to make them want you back.
For starters, you need to know that not all gay men are the same. Some have a penchant for masculine traits (including voice quality and posture) and find comfort in roles traditionally associated with males, such as fatherhood and work leadership. These guys are referred to as tops. Other gay men prefer feminine-presenting features and a softer, more submissive sex role. This group is often referred to as bottoms. They derive pleasure from a broad range of oral, manual and frictional body techniques.
This group may be more likely to experience internalized homophobia. As a result, they may be punished by workplace hierarchy systems for their more feminine-presenting traits. In fact, the first known study demonstrating a homosexual in-group bias found that women in higher status positions preferred straight-acting gay men over feminine-presenting ones. This finding could have a significant impact on workplace equality for gay men. However, more research is needed to better understand these results and why they occur.