February 2, 2024

What is a Stud Gay?

When it comes to lesbian identities, there are a lot of terms that get thrown around. From butch to dyke, it’s easy to get lost in the sea of terminology. One of the most important, but underappreciated, is stud gay. While there are varying definitions of what makes up a stud, it’s clear that this community has its own rich culture that dates back decades. It’s a culture that has been shaped by Black folks who have endured anti-Blackness and homophobia to create a space of self-love and acceptance for themselves. This is why it’s critical to not allow non-Black MOC lesbians, with zero stud lived experiences, to co-opt and erase this inherently Black term.

Despite the challenges that come with it, stud gay can be a positive and empowering space for many queer women. It provides an alternative to traditional gender roles in relationships and offers a more fluid form of femininity that can be empowering for both partners. In addition, it can provide a safe space for women who are attracted to masculine energy and appearances to express their identity and find support in a community that often devalues or dismisses them.

Unfortunately, the word stud is now being used by white people who have no understanding of its history or meaning. It’s a term that has been taken by the wrong people and it’s important to remind them that Black culture is not theirs to take.


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