January 31, 2024

What Does Gay Sex Feel Like?

When people think of sex between men, the first thing that comes to mind is probably anal play. But it's actually more than that. Gay sex is complex, nuanced, and — for many — deeply intimate. There's a heightened intimacy in not having to be conspicuous about your relationship, in having to keep it secret from the rest of the world. It's a special bond that's created by midnight trysts and long, deep conversations about everything from work to politics.

Even though sex between men is becoming increasingly common, it's still not widely understood. This is partly because sex between men is all but absent from mainstream media (aside from the new Elton John biopic Rocketman, which is reportedly the first big-budget studio film to feature a sex scene between two men) and the few sex scenes that do exist often misrepresent typical sexual encounters. But there's also an element of heteronormativity at play. People apply strict gender roles to heterosexual couples, but fail to extend the same courtesy to gay relationships.

To shed light on what does gay sex feel like, INSIDER talked to several gay men about their experiences in the bedroom. Here are some of their most popular myths about sex between men and the truth behind them.

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