There is no easy way to tell your family that you’re gay, but there are some things that you can do to make it easier. You can find support from other people who are LGBT and also from organisations that can help you.
You can also try to tell your parents in a place that is quiet and private, where you won’t be interrupted and they can have your undivided attention. You may need to repeat the conversation a few times to get your point across and make sure they understand what you’re saying. This is a big decision for you, and it’s important to think about how they might react.
It’s also good to prepare some answers for the questions your parents might have. You can also give them a book, pamphlet or website address where they can learn more about being LGBTQ. If your parents are open to learning more, this could help them move further toward acceptance.
If you’re worried about how your parents might react, it can be a good idea to invite supportive friends to be with you when you talk to them. Having backup can help temper a negative reaction and it’s a great way to show that you’re not alone in this.
It’s not unusual for your parents to feel angry, sad or disbelieving after hearing that you’re lesbian or gay. This can be part of the grieving process and a sign that they’re struggling with change.