It is not unusual for parents to be shocked when their child comes out of the closet. They had dreams for their child that have been completely shattered with the revelation that they are gay or lesbian or transgender. It is even more difficult for them when they find out their son or daughter has been in a relationship with someone of the same sex all along.
There are many ways to come out to your parents but there are a few important points that most people agree on. The most important is to do it when you are both calm and ready for the conversation. Trying to surprise them with it in the heat of the moment or when they are angry usually doesn’t work and can be counterproductive.
Another important point is to decide who is going to be in on the secret with you. It can be helpful to enlist the help of a trusted friend or family member so they can support you as you speak with your parents. The more people who are supportive of you the better. It can also be helpful to send your parents articles that explain homosexuality in a more positive light and that tell stories of people who have been successful in their relationships.
Finally, it is often helpful to remind your parents that they still love you even if they have issues with your sexual orientation. This helps to put their reaction in perspective and may give them the courage they need to move forward with the rest of their life.