Many gay men often feel like they look too masculine and may get questions about their sexual orientation from people who are judging them based on stereotypical gender norms. This can be very frustrating and cause some men to repress their own personality and style in order to "not look gay." It is important to remember that you are not alone and that there are ways to cope with this type of judgement. You can also surround yourself with a support system that will not judge you based on their own prejudices.
One way to stop getting asked if you are gay is to change your appearance. This can be done by changing your clothes, makeup, or hairstyle. Alternatively, you can do something as simple as changing the way you speak, walk, or move. You can even hit the gym and tone up a little to make yourself appear more stereotypically masculine. Some research suggests that gay men have irises that are more narrow and slit-like than those of straight men, which could be another indication of their sexual orientation.
Some men have found that they can find balance in their lives by embracing their homosexuality and dressing more in line with gender stereotypes. This has brought a lot of comfort to many men who have felt the pressure of presenting as straight. However, it is important to note that if you find yourself in a group of people who only offer you support if you pretend to be straight, then this is not true support and should be avoided. It is also important to know that if you are being bullied or threatened, then changing your looks may not be a good idea.