High school can be difficult for anyone, but it is especially challenging for LGBT teens. They have to keep up grades and participate in sports or extracurricular activities, all while navigating hormones and dealing with family issues. It can be easy to feel like they’re the only one going through these challenges, or that no one understands them.
One of the biggest hurdles for teens who want to find a boyfriend is finding other guys their own age who are interested in the same things. While there are a number of ways to do this, some of the most effective strategies include joining LGBTQ clubs or groups, getting involved in arts and theater programs, or hanging out in LGBTQ-focused communities online (such as r/LGBTeens and r/GayMen).
In addition to finding other gay boys their own age, it can be helpful for teens who want a boyfriend to try dating someone older or younger than them. However, it is important to make sure everyone is on the same page about expectations in terms of the relationship’s boundaries and what is or isn’t OK.
The most important thing for LGBT teens to remember is that it’s okay to have confusing feelings. It is also okay to flit between platonic and romantic love, or to crush on that straight coworker who always brings you coffee. These types of relationships are a part of our community’s diversity, and it is time to rip up the heterosexual rulebook about what it means to be in a relationship.