Gay men aren’t immune to the same issues that plague all minorities. It’s not uncommon for gay guys to experience racism, ageism, internalized homophobia, HIV phobia, xenophobia (fear of foreigners), or other forms of prejudice in their romantic relationships. Being on a date with a guy who displays any of these issues can be disheartening, off-putting, and often a sign that it’s time to end the relationship.
Whether you’re looking for your soulmate or just a little adventure, dating as a gay man can seem a bit messy and confusing at times, especially if you’re swimming in the Olympic-sized pool of single men that the show “Queer as Folk” made famous. But there are ways to make it less stressful, more enjoyable—and more successful.
1. Get involved in your community.
If you want to meet men who are passionate about social justice and have a big heart, try volunteering with an organization that focuses on these issues. You can find a wide variety of volunteer opportunities with LGBT-specific organizations, as well as with other groups that focus on social and environmental justice.
In addition to being good for the community, these types of activities can also be a great way to meet men who are interested in you. Plus, it will give you a chance to develop a sense of community and fraternity with men who share similar values and interests. In fact, many gay people say that they’ve met their best friends and potential romantic partners through community activities.