Sometimes the people you tell about your orientation don’t react well. They may try to convince you that you’re straight or argue with you about the issue. You might feel hurt or confused by this reaction. You can take steps to surround yourself with supportive people, such as LGBTQIA+ friends and accepting family members.
Some religious groups use the Bible to justify their hatred of homosexuals by claiming that God created women and men to be heterosexual, so if someone is gay it must be wrong. Others base their beliefs on outdated cultural assumptions and political ideology. They also often misinterpret biblical passages, such as those in the Epistle to the Romans, which describes gay sex as unnatural, immoral, and indecent.
Confusion about sexual orientation usually occurs when a person spends too much time thinking about it and not enough time actually doing sexual things. When the individual begins to interact with other people in sexual ways, their feelings resolve. This process might take a long time. It’s important to be patient and avoid interrupting the person. It’s also helpful to avoid asking questions that could be considered offensive or embarrassing. For example, it would be inappropriate to ask the person whether or not they like women.