You may feel like you’re gay if you have sexual and romantic feelings for people of the same sex, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you are. The only person who can answer the question of whether you’re gay or not is you, and figuring out your sexual orientation takes time.
You’ll know if you’re gay if you have strong, ongoing feelings for someone of the same gender and you enjoy spending time with men. You may also have sexual or romantic fantasies about people of the same sex, but this doesn’t necessarily mean you’re gay.
If you’re interested in both girls and boys, you’re bisexual. You’ll know if you’re bisexual if you have feelings and attractions towards both females and males, and if you enjoy being with both genders.
The word “gay” has had many different meanings, including in the sense of sexual orientation, since the 17th century. Until recently, however, it was mostly used as slang. Today, it’s more common to use it as a noun to refer to gay men and lesbians.
It’s okay to be curious about your sexuality in a world that expects you to be heterosexual, but it’s important to take the time to understand your feelings and find out how you want to label yourself. Be sure to talk to a trusted adult who can help you navigate this process. If you decide you are gay, you can then come out to your family and friends.