If you've ever been teased for the way you sit, you're not alone. Gay and bisexual men and women are often accused of not sitting "properly"--crossing their legs, spreading out to take up more space, or even holding hands when they sit down.
As a result, they are viewed as less masculine. In a culture that already defines masculinity as "the ability to physically dominate" and rejects femininity as "weak," this can be particularly hurtful.
This is why it's important to stand up against negative stereotypes. If you hear someone making a derogatory statement about LGBTQ people, speak up. But be careful! Your goal is not to start an argument or foster hostility, but rather to increase understanding. You can do this by speaking out respectfully and calmly, letting others know that their comments are inappropriate and illogical.
Whether a person is LGBTQ or straight, they can all benefit from being educated about their sexual orientation and gender identity. If you have close friends or family members who aren't open-minded, talk to them about how they can learn more about LGBTQ people. You might be surprised to find out that they haven't thought about their own sexual orientation or gender identity until you've started a conversation with them about it.
When it comes to how LGBTQ people sit, it is important to know that everyone's body is different. It's normal for people to sit in ways that feel comfortable and right to them. This is what queer sitting refers to--the idea that there are countless ways to sit, that the dominant norms of heterosexuality don't have the final say.